Depression: How to Cope with Feelings of Anger
Depression, a single word, is enough to evoke a rainbow of emotions in an individual. Being a huge Linkin Park fan from childhood, whenever depression is spoken about, the lead singer from the band, Chester Bennington, springs to mind
The worst part about the case was that even the people closest to him could not identify his symptoms and thought everything was fine and eventually the life was lost. In fact, according to statistics, the number of people committing suicide and dying due to depression makes it one of the most concerning topics with respect to health.
It is related to mental health, an aspect which has been ignored nonchalantly all this while but has managed to slither out its ugly head once in a while and claim victims silently. There is no denying the fact that the maintenance of physical health is of utmost importance. However, similar attention should be given to mental health issues as well. For a very long time, the issue has been dusted under a mat and people have not come out in the open and spoken freely about it.
The main reason is the fear of being labeled as abnormal or mad by society. Though there have been huge advancements in all terms with respect to society, this is still the sad truth. Another reason why mental health issues like depression go unnoticed is that there are blatant symptoms or features that are evidently seen. When you get hurt or have physical pain, there will be a marked external sign or it can be diagnosed with the use of advanced instruments.
Unfortunately, nothing of that sort is available for mental health. The symptoms are very subtle and need to be identified prematurely so that proper actions are taken before it becomes too late. The best person to identify the symptoms for you is a counselor. Even your closest family and friends may fail to identify the problem but it will not escape the counselor by any chance as he or she is specialized in doing so.
The most common symptoms, which can almost be considered as prodromal, include numbness, excessive lethargy, and unexplained sadness. However, one major symptom which is also a potent emotion that can wreak havoc, as far as depression causes is the feeling of irritability and anger. Nothing good has come out of anger most of the time and the situation is further aggravated by the issues related to mental health.
If you, or anyone you know, have the same feelings mentioned above, you should report to a counselor immediately. It might be a good idea to speak to someone close to you first, like your friend or family member who you think will understand what you are trying to say and then ask them to accompany you as well. Other than depression being fatal, the individual emotions are pretty damaging in general as well. The one that can create the maximum nuisance is the feeling of anger. Here are a few reasons why anger is the worst amongst everything that is felt during the depression and some tips to cope with it. The main intention here is to identify and stop before it gets too late.
Irritability due to depression
You will notice a certain change in the pattern of behavior in a person suffering from depression. The most distinct feature is the irritability that is noticed, even for the smallest of things. There is a direct connection to sleep deprivation. When you are depressed, you cannot sleep for the whole night. You keep tossing and turning around in the hope of getting what you want. Naturally, during the day you feel extremely tired and sleepy. Processing even the smallest of things takes a lot of effort and when things don’t go your way, you tend to get irritable and angry. Daily challenges become Goliath tasks and you start failing in them. Subsequently, when the sleeping pattern is disrupted, your body responds in the form of pain and aches.
Headache and joint pain are the two most common symptoms because of sleep deprivation, and depression ensures that you become a victim of that. This is further extrapolated into irritability and you get annoyed with the smallest of things. You get a feeling of being overwhelmed when depression takes over. Every sound, smell, and sight feels like a direct attack on the senses and the inability to deal with it will need a lot of stamina.
If the slightest of things go wrong and do not happen as you would want it to be, you lose your calm and react in a very negative manner. The worst part about this whole situation is the fact that the people who love and care for the most might have to endure it.
They may be at the wrong place at the wrong time and you might snap at them. Avoid such a situation. Even if it happens, wait for the situation to calm down and then go and apologize to them. Explain the situation to them completely and if they are really close to you, they will understand. In fact, some might even come forward to help you with your dilemma.
You become very different from what we were
As the signs and symptoms of depression take over, you tend to change as a person. All the things that you liked doing previously, you lose complete interest in them. Certain tv shows, programs, hanging out with people, going out, everything becomes a big deal. Slowly, a sense of detachment seeps in. You tend to feel completely drained of energy and your hands and legs feel like they are made of lead.
Then you stop. You stop interacting with people, you stop trying to be involved in anything and everything and try to run away from invitations and get-togethers wherever possible. Thus, a vicious cycle starts right there as you start feeling angry with yourself for becoming this way.
You start loathing yourself as you are unable to figure out what is happening with you. This is where suicidal thoughts start seeping in. When you start blaming yourself, the circumstances become even worse and things can really get out of control. To be very honest, this is one of the trickiest situations to be in. The best way to deal with this situation is to concentrate on something that you really like doing. Meditation is a good way to start. Be mindful of everything and start engaging in small tasks that will keep your mind busy and away from dangerous thoughts. Reaching out is again a solution here.
Talk to someone you are really comfortable with. Tell them that you want to catch up with them but you are not in the right frame of mind. Call them over to your place for a change. These steps may sound small on the outset but it can do you a world of good eventually.
You are frustrated with yourself
As mentioned earlier, when you go into depression, somewhere or the other, you feel you are yourself to blame. You think you are not strong enough to deal with the situations and have dived into the depths of sorrow on your own accord. This also leads to a lot of anger and frustration and it gets all the worse when you can’t let it out. Pent up emotions are extremely damaging and can cause new problems of its own. You think that we are incapable of shaking off any frustration that we may be encountering and take it as a failure personally. Instead, you should be kinder to yourself and deal with the situation in a more mature manner.
You need to tell yourself that you are suffering from a disease and contracting it was definitely not in your hands. Getting it is not your fault at all but dealing with it effectively is completely dependant on you. Communicate with someone about how you feel and ask about their perspectives and opinions. Any advice from an external source can work wonders in this situation. Blaming yourself will not help the situation in whatever way possible. Instead, understand that this was uncalled for but since it is here, you will deal with it in the best manner.
You feel robbed by depression
Once you are under the vile grip of depression, everything starts falling apart. You feel that depression is a thief. It robs you of your personality, your friends, families and loved ones. You start avoiding them as much as possible as you fear that they will not understand your situation and laugh or show sympathy to you. There have been instances where a person, due to depression, has left studies, work and every opportunity to socialize for months and years. The repercussions are extremely damaging and can sometimes lead to self-damage as well. You should look out for these and try to rectify them as soon as possible. One potent way of doing so is by not dwelling in the past for long but looking into the future itself. The goals that you set for yourself earlier may not be possible anymore. It is imperative that you reassess them and formulate something that is more achievable and will give you the confidence to grow. Having the right type of company around is also extremely important.
It must have become clear by now that depression can lead to a lot of anger. What is more important is to tell yourself that it is okay and things will take a turn for the better soon. Self-help is the best kind of help as far as dealing with anger due to depression is concerned.